You are Not Alone

Relationships are an essential part of human experiences that act as important life lessons helping us grow to become socially mature individuals. Yet, many of these experiences often cause great pain or heartache, especially when it comes to dealing with a significant other. It is never a joyous occurrence whenever one feels ties with a husband; a wife, a partner, a boyfriend or a girlfriend are not going too well. Whenever we invest so much of our time and emotional energy into making a partnership with another individual work, yet are met with dismal results, we often get disheartened. Relationships require a great amount of work, and will continue to do so. Often a common practice that those going through problems do is to ask for advice, either from a family member or a close friend. Yet, every problem is unique, and the best advice one can receive usually comes from those who have experienced similar circumstances.


A simple and logical solution that those dealing with love problems can turn to is entering a relationship advice forum.  At times, it may not be easy to turn to a close friend or family member when it comes to relationship advice, entering an advice forum could aid in helping one deal with relationship woes that those close to us cannot seem to understand. A website such as relationshipsurgery.com provides a platform for one to express problems when it comes to dealing with a significant other. With a number of other members with similar problems whether it be for casual dating advice or for help when it comes to a touchy subject such as cheating, talking about one’s problems to those who have experienced similar situations is a health practice that could help one understand how to deal with such problem.

A common problem that requires relationship advice is infidelity. Many have dealt with the problem of an unfaithful boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, husband or wife. It is never a joyous ordeal to have to go through finding out a loved one is unfaithful and at times, dealing with the situation poses great difficulty. If one were able to speak to those who have gone through similar problems, it may aid in understanding how one must deal with such situation. Entering a forum will give you full freedom to not only express the full breadth of a problem, but include details you may feel a little ashamed to tell a close friend or family member. A forum not only allows you to gain useful advice that could help address a problem, but also provides you a certain amount of anonymity that you may be confortable with.

Going through heartbreak or love problems alone is never a good idea. Why not ask for help with relationships? It is understandable to turn to a close friend or loved one for relationship advice, but truly, the best option when seeking relationship advice is to turn to someone who has experienced a similar situation. Not only will you realize you are not alone, but it is possible to find solace in the fact that somewhere out there, someone has dealt with the same problem and has been able to overcome it.

What NOT to do on Facebook

We all use it and most of us would probably really struggle if we were unable to log in for even one day. But we have never been taught how to use it or the social etiquette associated with it. For that reason I have put together this list of the top 10 things NOT to do on Facebook. 

1. Accepting anyone as your Facebook friend
It is so much nicer to have a list of friends that you actually know and are interested in. There is no prize for the person who can get to 5k friends the quickest (5k is the max allowed). And who wants to spend hours deleting all those random strangers when you have got bored of seeing statuses about things that really don't interest you. 

2. Poking
Yes some people still do it and well its just a bit creepy. If you have something to say to someone then SAY IT!

3. Having zero privacy settings enabled.
One thing I always recommend is to really look into the Facebook privacy settings. There are lots of options but if you are struggling, this is a really good guide. Who wants their boss seeing those dodgy drunken photos from last weekend? 

4. Flooding your network with status updates.
OK if you really must update the world on every movement you make each day, just toddle over to Twitter for that. Don't clog up your friends news feeds with mindless rubbish. Yes share the interesting stuff but honestly what sandwich you have chosen for lunch is not really of interest. 

5. Venting and over sharing.
Have you ever read a friends update saying "someone is such a bitch" or "I hate work"? And have you ever been interested to read it? I think not so don't do it yourself either. If you need to vent, ring your mum or one of your friends. 

6. Neglecting to engage others.
When a friend comments on your photo saying you look nice. Or when you make a status update that gets a few likes, its a good feeling right? So don't just expect it all to be one way. Return the compliments and thank people for their comments. Its the circle of life Facebook

7. Constantly changing your relationship status.
People see it you know? When you are constantly in and out of relationships! Why not meet someone, go on a few dates, wait to see if things get serious, then and only then and after no less than 1 month should you change your status. If you do it more than that you will look really lame!

8. Posting embarrassing photos of others.
Do unto others as you would have done to yourself. You may have taken a REALLY funny embarrassing photo of a friend at the weekend but if they do not want it posting then don't post it. If you do, don't expect the exact same, or worse to happen to you in the future. 

9. Complaining about employers, co-workers, family or professors.
BORINNNG. People don't know who you work with so don't bore them with it. Best case you bore your friends, WORST case one of your friends knows the co-worker or your boss and it gets back to them!

10. Breaking up with someone over Facebook.
Don't do it.... EVER

I would be really interested to read if you have any to add to the list. Please use the comments. x


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How To Know You Are In The Right Relationship

So all your friends are together with their partners and they all look so happy with each other. They may be having kids or planning their holidays. Some may be in good jobs and buying their first house together. They all look so happy that it gets you thinking about your own relationship. 

The internet and magazines are all full of useful articles and posts on "how to end it" or "how to get over an ex" or even "how to get back at a cheating ex" "does he like me or is he being nice?". But this is not any good for you becasue... as far as you know, you are perfectly happy in your relationship. But how do you know you are as happy as you could be? How do you know the relationship is right for you? Maybe you have not yet felt that feeling of utter dependence you are told you should be feeling. Or maybe you still look at other girls or guys and think about how attractive they are. It could leave you confused and questioning "could this be the one?". 

To help you answer these questions here is a list of totally unscientific ways to know you are in the right relationship. 

You Do Not...

Hide anything more significant than a surprise party

This includes cheating, exes, illnesses, convictions and anything you can think of that you would want to know about your other half. 

The truth will come out one day so it is better to come clean from day one. 

Snoop.

If they are not hiding anything.. which we have already established is essential, then why would you need to read their texts, emails or Facebook messages. STOP SNOOPING and learn to trust your partner. 

Hide your relationship from their friends or family

If its right and you have a good thing going that you are truly happy with, you should not feel uncomfortable with your partner meeting any of your family and friends. 

Think you're intellectually or otherwise superior.

The best relationships make you feel that you've convinced a person more exceptional than you to love you.

Resent the other person's success.

In a good relationship, you quit (or refuse to ever engage in) the one-upmanship.

Let any substance or behavior come before the relationship.

Any addict or over-user of a substance or behavior is cheating on you with his or her drug of choice. You deserve more.

Stew.

When something the other person does annoys you or turns you off, you don't push it to the back of your mind and hope it will go away, because it won't. You bring it up in the moment or sometime in the next 24 hours.

Damage property, animals, children or each other during an argument.

You think this goes without saying until you read something like this New York Times "Modern Love" and realize that human beings can rationalize staying with someone who leaves holes in their walls.

On the other hand, if you damage a vase or two in the heat of a different kind of passion, totally fine.

Challenge each other on personal issues in front of other people.

You know which conversations you shouldn't be having at brunch with friends.

Depend on each other for things no one can or should supply.

If you're looking to your significant other to resolve your emotional issues, make you more responsible/successful/adult, support you financially, improve your social standing, expand your group of friends, provide you with the family you never had, or make your parents finally accept you, it's possible you shouldn't be in a relationship at all, or at least not yet.

Begrudge each other time with your respective friends.

You can't be everything to your significant other, and why would you want to be? Sounds exhausting. Friends enrich your life, will accompany you to do things that your significant other may not enjoy, and keep you from getting tired of the person you're seeing.

Besides, if the relationship doesn't work out, those friends going to be the ones coming over to your house, dragging you out of bed and helping you rejoin humanity. Be good to them.

Lose Yourself

This is easier said than done, especially when the relationship is going really well. As tempting as it is to never leave the house (maybe never leave the bed), you keep doing the work, exercise, volunteering, socializing, networking, and daughtering you were doing before. Remember, these things made you the person Your Person fell in love with. They're part of you. Don't give them up for anyone. You can't afford it.

Have a secret plan B.

If you're where you need to be, the following thoughts don't cross your mind: "Maybe he'll dump me," or "If my ex moves back from Mongolia, everything could change."

Have much drama.

You know the cliche: The person worth your tears won't make you cry. Usually.

You do...

Put it all on the line.

If you're not risking having your heart broken, you're not doing it right.

Inspire each other to be better.

A good relationship is galvanizing, not in the oh-my-god-I-met-this-amazing-person-I'd-better-hurry-up-and-fix-myself sense (thought there's probably a little of that when you first start seeing anyone amazing) but in the way that knowing someone else believes in you makes you believe in yourself that much more. You want to prove yourself worthy of his or her confidence.

Humble yourselves.

You know you can't hide your flaws for long, so you don't try. You recognize that this person is going to have to take you as you are, as foolish or charitable (or both) as that may seem to make him or her. You know you're both going to mess up endless times and have to apologize and be forgiven and forgive. You'll wonder if one of the bigger mistakes is the one that will end it, and you'll have to prove to one another that the relationship transcends that. You recognize that you signed up for all of this.

Talk about sex.

Most couples don't instinctively know all of the ways to please each other. You have to talk about -- or at least show -- what you want. If you don't know what you want, you need to figure that out, STAT (step 1? Get thee to Babeland). And after you have talked about it, you do it. Better.

Talk about the rest.

The same things you're not supposed to talk about on a blind date -- religion, money, politics, kids -- are things you should discuss with someone you're serious about. What? You just remembered that thing you need to do? Get back here. No one said this was going to be painless. They said it was going to be hard and awesome.

Fight.

If you agree on everything, someone's not telling the truth. See #2 and #8.

Have times when you don't talk.

Not because you're angry with each other but because you can be quiet together. When you find yourself with silences you don't need to fill, when you find you can just walk along or lie about or work side by side and feel together without needing to verbally affirm that, you've got a good thing going.

Have object permanence.

Child psychologist Jean Piaget theorized that when babies get to be 8 or 9 months old, they begin to develop "object permanence," the idea that an object doesn't vanish when they can no longer see it.

In a good adult relationship, you know that you can go out into the world and do your thing, and the bond you've formed with the person you care about will be there when you get back.

This is also known as trust.

Take care of your body.

You know that you won't enjoy sharing it with someone else if you don't like, respect, and nurture it. Your partner feels the same way.

Divide and conquer.

You're not identical, thank god, which probably means you have certain strengths and he or she has others. Someone is more organized, someone is more outgoing, someone is a born listener. Someone is better with money, someone is more creative. Someone is more adventurous in bed.

If you each play to your strengths, you in all likelihood remember a gift (possibly an inspired one), your home(s) look(s) great, the bills get paid on time, sex is endlessly fun, and you leave everyone at the party thoroughly charmed.

Remember to look at each other across the room.

There's nothing more reassuring (or sexier) than glancing up from the interminable conversation with your eighth cousin or the head of operations or the report you can't seem to finish and locking eyes with Your Person and remembering that by some quantity of luck neither of you may deserve, you found each other.

Observe.

You notice when the other person is about to lose it, needs to leave even if you've been there only 20 minutes, is talking to someone he or she can't stand, did something he or she feels guilty about, is silently berating himself or herself, is ruminating over the thing his or her boss said, is about to spend an insane amount of money, and best of all, about to crack up in a situation where he or she shouldn't. You pay attention because you care, and because that's the good stuff.

Make time.

You realize that if this is it, one of you is going to be around some distant day in the future to lose the other. In that moment, you will not regret not checking your email in this one.

Occasionally get over yourself and your cynicism and fear of cliche and do something deeply, unapologetically romantic.

You send the flowers, have the book signed by the author, request the song, write the note, have the damned thing (tastefully) engraved. You call the other person and tell him or her that specific thing he or she did this morning that made you fall that much more in love. When you're not expecting it, he or she dares to say, even though we all know there are no guarantees ever, "When we're X age, want to Y?"

Just know.

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Fat Loss Factor contains guidelines for a quick healthy lifestyle plan that can help anyone in any physical condition to lose unwanted belly fat. From the first principle of preparing for success to the last one, Fat Loss Factor implements a lifestyle of fitness, eating right for your body, and the mental attitude that it takes to reach your goal weight. The book is chock full of practical, down to earth advice.

Fat Loss Factor Review | Program Details

Fat Loss Factor starts by measuring your basic statistics including weight, and body fat percentage. You are also asked to get photographs of yourself at the start so you can monitor your progress through the program. You’re advised to check your clothing at the beginning too, because you’ll likely find it to fit more loosely as you apply the principles of the program. Waist measurements are important too: women should ideally be around thirty two inches while a thirty five inch waist is ideal for men.

The program doesn’t take a miracle approach to get what it promises: a lean, healthy body that you can be proud of. These goals are reached through the consistent practice of proven principles of fitness and health. For example, the book stipulates early on that a change in eating habits is essential to your physical goals. Eating healthy foods that promote fat loss, metabolism, and energy is equally important to following the exercise regimen prescribed in the book.

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Once your body is cleansed and fueled by natural foods, you are introduced into some basic fat loss principles for exercise. According to the book, building muscle is essential to burning fat. That’s right, you won’t need any diet pills or other trendy supplements to get the body you want. The book explains how muscle tissue burns more calories than fat tissue, giving you the ability to burn fat even when you’re not working out. By working in sets and super sets, Fat Loss Factor guides you through basic exercises that will build the muscle you need without bulking up.

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Readers will find Fat Loss Factor an entertaining and informative read that will motivate them to avoid weight loss and fitness gadgets and gimmicks and steer them toward practical fat loss methods that work.

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4 Signs Your Ex Wants You Back

You’ve broken up and now you think your ex wants you back. Here are four signs to help you determine whether you are likely to get back together.

People get emotionally involved every day and they either become a happy couple with a strong relationship or just break up. Sometimes, everything seems so perfect that you are just certain that you and your partner are meant to be a couple forever. But sometimes that is just not what happens. Relationships can be complicated and it is always useful to get some decent relationship advice. Well, no doubt about that! In fact people are complicated. Sometimes things don’t turn out to be exactly how you expected. You may split up. Sometimes, if you are not a shallow Hal, you may even get signs that your ex wants you back.

New lovers or couples may think that their hobbies and interests are the same and they just “click” with each other and are thus perfect for each other. But a prolonged relationship sometimes reveals unexpected cracks. Complications arise, unforseen differences of thought and opinion, arguments over small things and you may both start thinking about whether you made the right choice or not.

One sign of discontent is increasingly aggressive behavior towards each other. Raised voices and even name calling. You find yourself thinking that it is all over. This doubt leads you to be open to the advances and attractions of others. So, the relationship ends and you start seeing other people and start a new involvement. But sometimes the bonds from your previous relationship are still there. Your previous partner may realize that your relationship did not have to end, should not have ended, and wants you back. If your ex has come to this conclusion and still loves you and wants to restore that previous relationship, new problems arise.

The difficult part will be for you because you may or may not be able to handle situations like these. They are usually emotional and stressful and can really drag you into further complications that you definitely want to avoid. When you believe that your ex wants you back, you need to handle the situation and take actions accordingly. You need to be completely sure this is the case. You must be certain that you can read the signs that can make it absolutely clear that your former partner wants you back.

1. Your ex wants you back when you notice their behaviour suddenly changes. You start to notice behaviour that is out of character with how they behaved before. Perhaps they used to be very selfish and demanding and now they are considerate and caring. Usually, when a relationship breaks up, you start seeing other people and stop talking to each other. So a text or email or even phone call from your former partner asking you how things are going with your life is an indicator. Also, your ex will start being nice to you all of a sudden. Gradually, you will start noticing that the annoying and irritating behavior that you had previously experienced has gone. Your ex starts indulging in pleasant small talk with you.

2. The second sign is that your ex partner starts to say positive things about you. The positive message will be delivered in small doses so it doesn’t just sound like base flattery. We all like to have meaningful compliments about ourselves. A boosting of self esteem is a form of flirting if it comes from the opposite sex and carefully doled out you will want to hear more. You may find yourself responding positively to your ex’s message. If your ex wants you back, this is a great technique.

3. The third sign is that they will recall happy days together.  You will find them bringing up recollections of the things that both of you enjoyed during your past relationship. Memories about the special times, places and people that meant so much to you both will be recalled. Mind tricks like these to bring back your shared good memories will remind you that it is all possible again.

4. Finally your ex wants you back if they start giving gifts. Gifts and favours will be given happily and graciously and you will find any previous anger and annoyance about the past relationship has faded.

If you are still holding onto hurt, anger and frustration from your previous relationship then you need to take things slowly. No matter how eager your ex is to be back with you, it is wise to be clear about how you feel. You may feel flattered with all the extra attention, but you want to be able to communicate honestly about what worked in your past relationship and what didn’t work. After all you don’t want to go through all that heart break again –do you?

Relationship Advice : How to Be Choosier

'We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them.' -- Khalil Gibran

Our life works and can be full of joy when we make effective choices. Our life can be full of sorrow if we make ineffective choices. This is why we need good advice on relationships. 

Chooser vs. Victim

As a child, choices were made for me and I had little power over what happened to me. This is normal for children, but when we take this attitude as adults I call it being a 'victim'

The opposite of being a victim is to be 'The Chooser'

The concept of choice is remarkable, and that we have choices I consider to be a fact. Though in my life, I've forgotten this fact many times when I was impulsive or reactive. I find it challenging to take responsibility for my failures and pain as being the result of my own choices. I want to blame my boss, my ex-wife, the other driver, my parents; and for awhile I did.

I've had many wake-up calls that acting out of ignorance or impulse doesn't absolve me of responsibility for making a bad choice.

When I was sixteen, a new driver, and got a ticket for making a U-turn across a double-yellow line I told the cop honestly that I didn't know it was against the law, and felt it grossly unfair that he ticketed me anyway.

I fought the ticket in traffic court and lost. My only defense was 'I didn't know! I didn't mean to break the law!' The judge told me ignorance was not an excuse for breaking the law. That was one of my first wake-up calls that as an adult, I would be held accountable for my choices even if they were unconscious. Scary thought.

We live in a victim culture. It's usually the other guy's fault that we go to war, get into a car accident, lose our money in stocks, get a divorce. While victim-hood might make us feel better and in the right, it also makes us helpless and perpetuates our problems.

iPhone Cases eCommerce Site taking on the big boys

After taking delivery of his shiny new iPhone 5, James Jones spent the next few hours searching on line for protective cases and covers he very quickly realised that there were thousands of websites including eBay and Amazon all selling iPhone 5 cases with wildly varying prices.

After deciding to get a bargain Jones ordered a case from eBay closed his laptop lid and waited for the postman to arrive. A few days past and an envelope dropped through his door which he grabs and opened in anticipation of the quality protective covering for his pride and joy inside. The case was actually as it turned out made from very low quality material and looked nothing like it did on the eBay image. Jones contacted the eBay supplier who told him to return the case for a full refund. When Jones realised the postage would probably cost more than the case itself he just threw the case in the bin and went back onto the Internet.

With a background in web development Jones quickly realised that a lot of these cases on offer from what looked to be decent quality sites were very expensive and he realised the reason for their expense was probably because they were paying for traffic and therefore their customers into that site. Jones saw an opportunity here and created his own site VIP Cases with the intention of never spending a penny on marketing therefore not having to pass this cost on to the customer.

His plan was to build a fully optimised site with fantastic search engine visibility but without the costs incurred by the larger companies in the same market gave James a fighting a chance of competing in this already extremely competitive marketplace. Since launching VIP cases Jones has slowly crept up the Google rankings using some basic search engine optimisation techniques and is now ranking side-by-side against the big boys but without all that costs.

The company continues to add more stock to the site only after Jones and his team have examined it for quality and design. They are now being contacted by various manufacturers asking them to add their products to this ever expanding portfolio. As Jones and his team expand and they all get to grips with on line marketing, they are set for a very successful future.